Dealing with an “all or nothing” mindset

By December 17, 2020 No Comments

You know that feeling of “if I can’t do it all, I won’t do anything at all”? This is super common because we tend to think our health is all or nothing. Example: you can’t workout because your schedule is too crazy or because you injured yourself, so you stop checking in with your coach, you stop showing up to calls, you start eating like an asshole… you basically throw in the towel because 1 part of the whole puzzle fell a little out of place.

This is totally normal, BUT I would be coddling you to say “it’s okay”… because it’s not.

This all or nothing mindset is holding you back. It is preventing you from seeing long term success.

Here is how you can deal with your all or nothing mindset:

  • Identify – you can’t do ANYTHING about a problem you don’t identify or acknowledge. Get really honest with yourself – do you tend to have an all or nothing mindset? What about? How has this mindset been manifesting in your life? How has it held you back?
  • Ask yourself why –  Why do you have this all or nothing mindset? Is it because you have perfectionist tendencies? Is it because you have a fear of failure and this is a defense mechanism? Is it something else…? **HINT: “I don’t know” is not an acceptable answer in personal development
  • Reframe your beliefs and your thoughts – time to rewrite the story you have creagted for yourself. I can’t tell you what that is, but I can tell you this: make it a definitive, powerful, positive statement
    • Avoid “I’ll try to…” “hopefully…” “well maybe I will…”  etc.
    • Use statements like “I am…” “I do…” “I will…” etc.
  • Make a plan for moving forward – okay, so you can’t do this one thing, but what can you focus on instead? Think about all the moving pieces that are included in your self care and health and figure out which things are the most simple and easiest for you to implement. Start there and work your way up to more complex tasks.

Do me a favor: don’t read this and then move on with your day, leaving it in the dust.

I want you to sit down and write down your initial thoughts.

Write out your answers for my questions or meditate on them.

At the very least: write a to do list for later or set an alarm to come back to this.

Let me know if you have any questions by emailing me at coachsarah@gem-fitness.com

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